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by Alisa Princy (2019-10-03)

I am well aware of the types of Text Chemistry Review situations that lead up to this question. This is often not a very fun situation to be in. I have been the wife who wanted to hold up the divorce, who wanted to change my husband's made up mind, and who was willing to pull out all of the stops to get his attention. I understand how immediate this feels. It's a lonely place to be because you feel as though you're the only one who really cares any more. Still, I do know from experience that it's possible to turn this situation around. However, in my experience, it often requires you to step off the edge and take a leap of faith. Sometimes, you have to step back from your thoughts and inclinations and carry out a plan rather than giving in to the impulses and insecurities that will often steer you wrong. I will discuss this more in the following article. The Things That Are Least Likely To Save Your Marriage When Your Spouse Wants To End It: In my experience, the things that work the least are the things that feel like the right thing to do at the time. These are the times when you let your emotions and your fears take over and and the times when you are overly emotional and are willing to say or do anything to get them to consider working with you to save the marriage. And, although these actions may flow naturally and maybe offer a bit of emotional relief, they are often the wrong way to go. The reason for this is that they will often contribute to your being perceived even more negatively and this will likely reinforce their desire to go forward in the divorce. You do not want to create a situation where they think that you are an obstacle to them getting what they want. You want to set it up so that you are part of the picture that they want. Begging, calling too much, using legal tactics to stall the process, and arguing with them are all things that contribute to weakening your position rather than strengthening it. I know from experience that stopping yourself from giving into the temptation to act on your emotions is much easier said than done. There were times when I would hear myself being so needy and emotionally vulnerable and the little voice in the back of my head would be saying "what are you doing? Look at his face. You're only making this so much worse for yourself." And yet, although I knew that these thoughts were absolutely true, I seemed unable to stop my actions at the time, even though I knew that I was only making the situation worse.